7 Perks of Being Comfortable on Your Own
Okay, so before anyone judge me for writing the “most overrated blog topic of all time”, I just want you to know that I am sharing parts of lessons I learned when being alone is the only choice I have. I don’t mean to become so melodramatic or anything, I just want to let you know that being alone is not as suck as what you think it is…
- You have all the time to do what you want.
You have the time to stare at this very cute stranger who’s sitting across your table on a restaurant as much as you want and NO ONE will even try to bother or ask what you’re thinking. (On your mind you’re now getting married to a stranger you will never ever see again.)
- You can do what you want.
So you want to stare at this Magic Mike XXL poster at the cinema without anyone telling you to stop? You can do it. You want to go foodporn but you’re afraid your friends won’t join because they’re afraid of gaining weight? Congratulations, you can now be a pig without anyone’s consent. The thing is, doing what you really want without anyone being a devil’s advocate is such a breathe of fresh air. I mean at first it’s awkward but then you’ll realised no one gives a shit when you’re alone. Just your mind.
- You can contemplate without being disturbed.
Okay, so you’re standing alone beside you’re office’s door on a hot humid day and out of nowhere, you’re mind decided to look back at the past and scan all the “what if’s” in your life. You feel a little melodramatic and having a soap opera conversation within yourself like, “where am I in my life?” “do I want these kind of life? “Am I happy?” and lots of other things and the best thing is no one will ever break the ice for you, because you don’t like ice-breaker! It’s important for a person to critique oneself and asks important questions in your life because IT’S YOUR LIFE.
- You can go wherever you want.
Okay, so you want to go to this new thrift shop that opened two blocks away? Congratulations, you can thrift till you drop without no one’s judging you for your choice of lifestyle. I mean, isn’t it magnificent that you can go wherever you want without anyone even your friend planning what and where you should go. You have all the freedom. Look at small things happening on the street, listen to what other’s talking about (without no one judging you), observe people and I can assure you that you feel lightweight and get interested on the world that we’re living in. It’s a good world. It’s a good life.
- Forced Conversation, NO MORE!
Have you ever gotten to a point where you just don’t want to talk? Not because you feel sad or depress or anything. Nothing, for no particular reason, you just want to completely seal your mouth shut and just stare at the façade of this glamorous building across from the café shop you regularly spend your time off. It’s nice. You feel like you’re living in a rom-com movie except for the fact there’s no romance happening. Not even a tidbit.
- You feel Empowered.
Nothing ever feels quite right when you are comfortable on doing things on your own. You feel empowered, you feel matured, you feel independent and strong, you feel the self-reliance that a lot of people doesn’t have.
Traveling on your own? Check! Eating at a fine dining restaurant alone? Check! Watching your favorite movie on the cinema? Check! Going to spa alone? Check! Going shopping alone? Check!! The thing is, that small things mean the world to us, it’s our reality and if you’re just going to suckle on the negative side of reality, you’re poisoning yourself. Reality is both good and bad and there’s nothing we can do about it. However, we have a choice if we want our reality to become good and interesting. It’s just on the tip of our fingertips.
- You’re loving yourself more.
I know you’re tired of hearing this, but this is a fact. When you no longer feel the need of having someone on your side because you feel awkward when you’re alone is a huge favor for yourself. What if no one is there to accompany you? Are you just going to cancel your plans because no one is available to go with you? You shouldn’t do that. You’re relying your life on people around you and it’s utterly bad, because everything else is temporary. We really should grasp the fact that not everyone will be right beside us and it’s time to let go of the needs of craving for others’ presence. Do your shit on your own because no one is going to do it for you. Be responsible for yourself. Let’s have a full time commitment to ourselves and you know you have a one step forward when you no longer need other people to feel comfortable. Be comfortable on your own.